Even the best negotiatiors need help


Hi Reader,

This week’s Gentle Power episode (Youtube | Spotify | Apple Podcasts) hit on a truth we see over and over: you can be brilliant, accomplished, and trained in negotiation, and still mishandle a high-stakes job offer.

Our guest is a close friend who went to a top business school, was taking a negotiation class while she was in the middle of her own job offer process, and has a career full of negotiating multi-million-dollar deals. By all accounts, she should have been bulletproof. Yet she almost sank her own offer.

It was a powerful reminder that:

  • You can be highly skilled and still mishandle your own negotiation.
  • Good advice isn’t enough, execution is key.
  • Context matters more than theory.

Negotiation is not just about knowing the “right” principle. It is about timing, nuance, and reading the other side’s signals in real time. Even world-class advice can backfire if the delivery is off or if the context shifts. That’s where we come in for our clients: being your co-pilot in all interactions during a negotiation.

For example, another client was told, “salary is not negotiable.” She took it as “total compensation is not negotiable.” That small misread almost cost her tens of thousands of dollars. We see this all the time. The language sounds standard, but unless you know how to interpret it, you miss a meaningful distinction.

The lesson here is not just that negotiation is hard. It is that expertise and support make the difference between leaving money on the table and unlocking your full value. Just like people hire a trainer at the gym or a consultant for MBA applications, hiring a negotiation partner is not a weakness. It is a smart investment in yourself.

We’ll be trying more of this new format where we interview friends anonymously and break down their real-world negotiations. If you like it, let us know. And yes, next time you hear from us, it may be with a full Burning Man recap.

Until then, remember: even the best negotiators need someone in their corner.

Warmly,

Gerta & Alex
Co-founders, YourNegotiations.com

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Gerta & Alex will teach you how to negotiate and add up to 5-to-6 figures to your compensation. They are the founders of YourNegotiations.com, offering consulting and training to help people become stronger negotiators in the workplace. They are negotiation experts, ex-Instagram, ex-LinkedIn, trained by world-class negotiators at Harvard and MIT, and their clients increase their compensation by an average of $90K over the initial offer.

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